Ellsworth

There is a video of Jesse that I have watched more than once.

A video that I have thought deeply about, because I found one phrase disturbing.

The context is that Jesse majored in Psychology.
And when he studied the field, the field had not seriously begun to study domestic violence.
And had not recognized the most commonly uttered excuses, as an expression of disease.

Trigger warning regarding the link for those with PTSD, especially surrounding domestic violence and rape.

https://youtu.be/5rwLuF13OJk?t=43

It's the phrase, it's the blame, it's the shifting of fault between two agents.
And for a person above a certain age, it's not the same loaded phrase of today's age.

So, consider my words not as judgment about/towards Jesse, but rather consider my words as pointing out a potential multi-layered lesson.

What's fair in a fight, isn't fair in a fight.

The easiest way to a (typically temporary) false feeling of total absolution is to simply self assess all fault upon the other.

That way, is seldom a solution.
That way seldom leads to positive mental growth or a positive experience.
That way generally sinks relationships.
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If you feel you are in an abusive relationship, then there are resources (both national and local) to help you find a safe path to a new future.
May you have the strength and courage to take a new path.

National Domestic Violence Hotline
https://www.thehotline.org/

Contact options:

PO Box 90249
Austin, Texas 78709

1-800-799-7233 (1-800-799-SAFE)
Or text "Start" to 88788

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